Oh man, I just realized I haven’t logged into Goodreads in months. I’m so bad at these social medias. I just spent some time entering in my reviews trying to catch up. It’s not very fun and I don’t know how to make myself care about stuff like this. I want to care because I think that is how you grow your audience. Caring.
We Have No Idea: A Guide to the Unknown Universe by Jorge Cham and Daniel Whiteson
This book took me a while to read. A dumbed down and simplified summary of what we know about the universe around us, how we have come to know it, and what we still have no idea about. The authors use humor and adorable cartoons throughout to explain the concepts. I still found it rather difficult to absorb. I think it’s just a very large and very particular topic. And I’m stupid.
A book on the power of introverts. I don’t know. Seems kind of obvious. Everyone has their strengths and those strengths are useful in different circumstances. Introverts are perhaps more comfortable doing solitary work and because solitary work is a requirement of deliberate practice, they’re good at certain things. Like writing. They’re not distracted by shiny objects so they find it easier to persevere.
She mentions introverts hating open floor plans for working. I completely agree with that one. Having my own office when I was a lawyer and not a cubicle was seriously the best thing about being a lawyer.
I related to the author. She used to be a Wall Street lawyer and found that when she would catch up with law school classmates, she would always feel jealous of the ones who had altered their careers to become writers and psychologists. Now that her life is a mixture of those two fields, she’s much happier. I hear ya, sista!
The Descendants: A Novel by Kaui Hart Hemmings
Engaging fiction novel that was apparently made into a movie starring George Clooney. Our narrator is a man whose wife is in a coma. The doctor advises him to withdraw care and let her pass as she won’t get better. Plus she has a living will, so it’s not really his choice anymore. During this process, he finds out his wife was cheating on him. His daughter is the one who tells him. I see why they made it into a movie. It has the right pacing.
Self-Publisher’s Legal Handbook: The Step-by-Step Guide to the Legal Issues of Self-Publishing by Helen Sedwick
Excellent book if you are looking to self-publish. I’m not sure why you would be reading this book if you weren’t, so it’s pretty binary. There are so many bureaucratic hurdles to jump through when publishing that you would have no idea about if nobody told you.
Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg
Aziz is hilarious in everything I’ve seen him do and his book did not disappoint. I picked it up because it was a book club book and not specifically for Operation Don’t Die Alone, Please, so it was a happy accident that it seemed to confirm a lot of the relationship advice I’d also been reading about.
He goes out and talks to a bunch of people in different parts of the world asking them about dating and romance. He talks to psychologists and researchers who study relationships and dating and such. It’s an impressive amount of research. He eats all the way through and talks about it all with a funny and engaging voice. I bet the audio book for this is excellent.
My favorite part of the book is the conclusion. I nodded and chortled at pretty much everything he was saying and I wish I could reproduce it in its entirety here, but the copyright laws I just learned in the book above would not condone it. This book deserves its own post and will likely get one at some point. I highly recommend this book.
Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life by Katherine Woodward Thomas
Basically, a therapy course for you to do in an attempt to figure out why you’re single and to change that. Lots of good information and insight, but the author ended her marriage to the guy she married in the book. Kind of a depressing reality. She wrote another book after that called Conscious Uncoupling, a phrase made famous by Gwenyth Paltrow.
I found some of her advice a little bit too new-agey, spiritual, religious, for me, but I did appreciate some of it. If you think it’s impossible to find love, it will be. You have to be open to it. Envision your ideal relationship so you know what you’re looking for. At the same time, you have to not be too attached to the outcome. It’s the process that matters.
Here’s my takeaway: I’ve spent so much time and energy convincing myself that I’m a confident, independent person and I’m reluctant to give that up. It’s a lot harder for me to feel confident and independent when I’m in a relationship. I’ve been drawn to emotionally unavailable guys because I’m emotionally unavailable. I hate the idea of giving up my autonomy and my control, so I don’t let anyone suitable close enough to hurt me. And a bunch more stuff that I’m not going to write on my blog. But hey, now I know and I’m actively trying to change. I’m optimistic and hopeful. Optimistic and hopeful about 75% of the time anyway.