This motivational poster told me that changing my attitude would change my world. Or something. I don’t remember the exact words. It was a close-up of a drop of water. Or maybe a sunset? Regardless, the motivational poster was right. Outlook is everything.
I used to despair when I would do research on an article and notice how many other people have written about the topic already. It’s all been done before. Everything is derivative of something else which is derivative of something else. I have nothing new to say. You don’t either. Nobody has anything new to say.
Well, that’s depressing.
There are a million personal finance and financial independence voices in the InterGoogle. There are a billion cooking videos and tweets and pinterests (I’m assuming, I still haven’t done anything with my Pinterest). Travel sites litter the landscape. Seriously, you can find a detailed site for pretty much every single country out there.
It bummed me out.
Then I decided to take the drop of water’s advice and took a different perspective. Now, when I do research on an article and notice how many other people have written about the topic already, I stand up and cheer, trying to start the wave.
The fact that so many intelligent and thoughtful people exist and write eloquently about things that interest us unequivocally makes our world and our lives better. It’s all out there for you to find. You just have to stumble across it or actively seek it out. The world is your freaking oyster and you can decide what you want to do, learn about it, and then go do it!
It thrills me!
So yeah, attitude. How you look at things. The way you think. Here’s a list of the ways I’ve applied that mantra to my life:
“Attitude is everything” life changes implemented
- The way I think about research as described above.
- Giving up Operation Big Time.
Hmm, I guess I didn’t really need to make that into a list.
But yes, Operation Big Time a.k.a. Operation Create My Version of a Successful Blog a.k.a. Operation My Version of the Big Time a.k.a. Operation Fail. This is the problem with writing about whatever notion flits across my brain in real time. I started formulating and writing and list-making about Operation Big Time in December 2015. The second I published the article on it in February 2016 though, I knew I made a mistake and that the mini-goals that I set for Operation Big Time weren’t quite right. Maybe that’s why there was so much face-kicking in that post.
Detours to Success
Before Operation Enjoy the Crap Out of Sydney, I had a couple of items on my Australian Bucket List that I hoped would quantify my goal to make friends. They were items #6 (Throw a party) and #7 (Make two dozen friends to invite to the party so you’re not a loser throwing a party that nobody shows up to). I did indeed cross both of those items off my bucket list about eight months into my stay in Australia, but I didn’t feel satisfied after #7 because I realized that most of the people I invited were acquaintances and not friends at that point. They were names on a list to cross off and it didn’t sit right.
Some things can’t be measured. Or a more comforting thought, everything can be measured, you just have to find the right angle.
Abandoning Operation Big Time
So, I went back to Tip 1 (understand exactly why you want this dream to come true) for my dream of having a successful blog and read my thoughts again. I wrote a bit about what I wanted from you, which is all still true, but since this is a narcissistic post and because I can only change MY behavior, I’m going to reprint what I wanted for me:
I want to be a successful writer….I consider this site my “job” for this year and since I spend a good chunk of time on it, I want acknowledgement…
Ah. That’s the problem. I need to change my attitude because chasing this goal does not make me happy. It actively bums me out. I am not making time for it and getting F’s on my resolutions chart for it. I hate checking my stats. I allot enough time to write two posts a week, but not much else.
I want to write because I enjoy the writing. Full stop. I’m retired. I don’t want a job right now. I don’t want to increase the amount of time I spend on this hobby because there is so much in life to do and see and learn and explore and try and touch and be yelled at for touching.
I’m the one who is always preaching that money gives you options. Money lets you live the life you want to live. What do I want? I love the writing. I don’t like the social media or the learning wordpress or playing with the colors or despairing about pictures. I like the reading and (now) the researching. I love your emails and your comments. You knew before I did that Operation Big Time was not quite right.
Change my attitude and I’ll change my world.
At the end of the day, I don’t consider myself a personal finance blogger or a travel writer or a cooking person. This is a “Thriftygal blog”, thinking-aloud-therapy and musings, a tool for me to make my life better and a place for me to write regularly…when I feel like it.
Instead of being sad that I don’t have my arbitrary 25,002 followers and 1,000,000 page views in a month, I am now going to play my super fancy Les Paul Moonves air guitar whenever I realize that hey – more than 2,000 people like me enough to read my prattle and plottings! How flattering!
It’s the journey and not the destination, another motivational poster told me. This one had galloping horses. Life is good. I love retirement. You should try it.
Oh! I counted the kind souls who wrote to tell me that I made a positive difference in their lives and I am officially crossing off Life Bucket List Item #13 (make a positive, lasting difference for 50 people) because the number I ended up at was higher than 50. Thank you, my dear reader, for reading. My target audience is “people who like to read what I write” and I feel so grateful that you exist. The fact that any of my nonsense helps anyone delights me.